The Husband Affair: Looks Can be Deceiving
Marietta Adultery Attorney
I’m a husband having an affair and cheating on my wife. I came into my marriage with the best of intentions. But, I had no idea what years of marriage would really be like.
Lonely Man Sitting at Laptop
Our Family Looks Perfect
My parents raised me to be a good provider for my family. Nearly every day of our marriage, I’ve gotten up and gone to work so that my family could have the best of everything. And, I have delivered on that promise.
- We have a nice home.
- We drive nice cars.
- Our kids go to good schools and participate in all the best sports and activities.
- Every year, we take at least one good vacation.
But, I never anticipated the pressure of providing that life. All day I run to keep up with our demanding lives. I am constantly worried about how to provide for my wife and children.
I feel like an outsider.
Even though I provide nearly all the income for the family, my wife does all the decision-making without me. She coordinates everything:
- What our house will look like
- Where we’ll go for fun
- Children’s schedules, activities, and events.
Then, she just tells me when and where to be. It’s infuriating. When my kids need something, they only ask her. I’m just a bank account for them. Whenever I’ve tried to participate, to help, to be a functioning part of this family, I get overruled, silenced … emasculated.
The Husband Affair
So, I pulled back, withdrew, and stopped trying to interject myself where I clearly was not welcome, wanted, or needed. It happened slowly … and innocently. I became a husband having an affair. I started talking with someone, and she asked about my day. She admired me and thought of me as successful. She didn’t need anything from me. It was so good to just have a friend. And then our feelings grew, and I felt a change building inside me. Years and years of anger and resentment, of being taken for granted, and I started to feel like I deserved better.
And I decided to make a change in my life.